While working in Flex, my husband became friends with Stan the Man.
Over lunch, Stan the Man told me a story of how he evened the score with his wife during a marital dispute, typical of law enforcement marriages. My husband and I went through this a lot before we realized that it was cyclical. From my experience, the way my marriage works, it is a result from the officer working an incredible amount of hours so the officer’s other half is the family manager. Then there is lack of listening owing to the frustration that each side’s complaints aren’t properly validated.
Stan used a particular incident with my husband to make his wife feel guilty when she was winning a dispute. Oh the power of manipulation! When all else fails, pull out all your stops!
Well, this incident started off when they were in the unit’s “covert” vehicle when they saw a drug dealer they wanted to pursue out on the street. I put covert in quotations because honestly, it isn’t covert. The repeat criminals in that zone already know all police vehicles, covert or not.
Once my husband saw a drug dealer dealing, then he jumped out of the vehicle to chase him on foot while Stan followed. Stan sped up a side street to get ahead of them when he was hit by a bus in the covert vehicle. Stan proceeded on foot because he saw that the dealer started reaching for a weapon, then my husband drew his gun. After Stan arrived, patrol also arrived for the melee of arresting this drug dealer for a handgun violation, among other things.
The bus driver approached a uniformed officer asking if he had to exchange information; whereupon, he was told by patrol that no one knew what he was talking about. The bus driver left while Stan was still focused on the suspect without pausing after being hit by a bus. Stan did not publicize his accident during the melee.
Back at the station, my husband and Stan the Man spent quality time filling out reports while Stan nursed his sore muscles. Stan’s phone rang stalling their ability to finish their reports. This is when his wife picked a winning argument with him, which Stan ended by informing his wife that he had been hit by a bus. For the rest of the day, his wife was very soothing with lots of apologies.
Very nicely done Stan. Very nice.
Result: Stan recovered but learned very little.