It hurt just like it would for anyone hitting a wall at full speed.
A marriage to a police detecive requires a lot of trust. First, he doesn’t work normal hours. Second, he is usually talking to random people that I have never heard of before in our life. Third, criminal informants call at all hours. Fourth, I have been at dinner with him when he received a phone call causing him to leave during dinner. With all of those things that happen, it takes trust.
So on a Monday morning when I am waking my husband up so he won’t be late to work and I find “I will love you always <3 Sheri” written in ink on the back part of his upper arm, I start to wonder if I have been too trusting. Well, he definitely woke up with a start when I exclaimed, “WHO IS SHERI?” I can promise you, he was at attention faster than you can say adultery!
This time, as a seasoned veteran, I was smart by getting help right away before we started pouring salt on each other’s wounds. When you seek out the right help for your problem, it’s amazing how it can take what is starting to feel as completely hopeless, then turn it into hopeful. As the counselor put it, the question isn’t whether he had an affair but whether we had stopped taking care of us in our efforts to meet all of our other obligations?
The story of Sheri was a short one. It was a Navy prank done over the weekend that was easily confirmed when I checked into it. What seems extremely funny by intoxicated young twenty-somethings that are neither married, nor bright at 2:00 am on a Sunday, isn’t as funny to the working Mom & wife early on a Monday morning.